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Saying No Politely

Use these phrases to politely refuse an invitation or an immediate offer without hurting anyone's feelings.

Key Phrases

Voice
Softening the refusal

I'm really sorry, but...

neutral

Often used at the beginning of your sentence before you actually decline.

Thanking for the invitation · 2 ways to say it

Thanks for the invite!

casual

Very common in spoken English with friends or close colleagues.

Thanks for inviting me.

neutral
Declining an invitation · 3 ways to say it

I can't make it.

casual

Usually followed by a brief reason why you cannot go.

I won't be able to make it.

neutral

I'm afraid I won't be able to come.

polite

Starting with "I'm afraid" is a very common way to soften negative news.

Declining an immediate offer · 2 ways to say it

I'm good, thanks.

casual

Use this when someone offers you something right now, like a drink or a seat.

That's very kind of you, but I'm fine.

polite
Giving a reason (Busy) · 2 ways to say it

I have too much going on right now.

casual

I already have plans for that day.

polite
Giving a reason (Tired)

I've had a long week and need some rest.

neutral
Leaving it open for the future · 3 ways to say it

Can I take a rain check?

casual

US - means you want to accept the offer, but need to do it at a later date.

Can we do it another time?

casual

UK - the common British equivalent to asking for a rain check.

Maybe some other time?

neutral
Suggesting an alternative · 2 ways to say it

How about next weekend instead?

casual

Could we reschedule for another time?

polite

Practice Dialogue

Coworker
Hey, a few of us are getting dinner after work. Do you want to come?
Invited Colleague
Thanks for the invite! I'm really sorry, but I can't make it tonight.
Coworker
Oh, that's too bad. Are you busy?
Invited Colleague
Yeah, I've had a long week and need some rest.
Coworker
No worries. We'll probably go out again soon.
Invited Colleague
Great. Can I take a rain check?
Coworker
Of course! How about next weekend instead?
Invited Colleague
That works for me. Have fun tonight!

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